Going to the Boat

Tomorrow I am going to the Blue Chip with my friends. I haven't had a chance to spend time with them as individuals much less as a group lately. It is always such a good time, full of laughter and controlled chaos when we all get together. I am the non-drinker of the group. I get to watch them get a little gofy and then I get to tell them what happened, or at least my version of what happened. We have had many a great time together and I look forward to many more for the next 100 years. To the ones that could not go tomorrow - - you will be missed big time! I know we will think about you more than once and we will certainly miss your sweet and mischevious smiles.

Let's Just Call it Unfashionably Rude

Okay - - we all know them - - the people that think it is 'cool' to be fashionably late. If I am going to take my time and energy to plan and get everything ready at a certain time, the least they can do is show up in a timely manner. I have now come to the point of telling certain people that something actually starts an hour earlier than it does so that they will show up one hour late instead of two. To make matters worse, they think their actions are so cute - - NOT!!! These are the same people that will come into your house and complain and talk about others the entire time. When they have finished that part of their agenda they move on to taking everything and anything they can get their hands on that is not bolted down - - did I mention that these people never bring anything to an event? They are also the type to mooch and self-invite themselves to everything. This type of people are the ones that always think everything they do in life is right and justified, no matter how much they may hurt or offend someone else. Did I mention that their kids are incredibly messed up and have no respect for anyone around them, especially their parents? So, what do I do? Do I just not invite them anymore - - do I keep inviting them and hope one day they will wake up with social graces? Is that even possible? I know you are waiting for me to identify who 'these people' are - - maybe I will one day - - for now I will just say that it is not any of those that I identify as my friends. These are people I feel obligated to have at certain events.

Thanks

Just wanted to take a moment to thank all of those that have decided to follow this blog. Don't forget to leave a comment or an idea for a future blog. Hope ya'll are enjoying what I have written so far. As we find the weather getting colder and the holidays approaching, I am sure the blogs will get even better. Normally I have my Christmas shopping done by now - - I haven'e even really started yet this year which means I have to be out in the stores with the crazies that have no manners. Yeah, the blogs are going to get very interesting!!!

Belle's Coming of Age

Belle is my youngest. She will be 14 next week. To say she is a trip would be putting it mildly. I am just in awe of her sometimes. She can be as stubborn as the day is long and just as sweet as an angel. She is just as hard-headed as her father and as head-strong as her mama. In the last few months she has been avid, to the point of being a little broom rider, when it comes to getting her point across. It is funny to see her coming of age. I will see her whispering a question to her sister and I will ask what she wants to know . . . . . be careful what you ask for, you just might get it! One such question comes to mind.......she asked her sister what masturbation is for a guy. Well, Danielle told her she would tell her in private in a little while. They never got time to be in 'private' before dinner that night. So, me being me, decided to bring it up at the dinner table with Rob sitting right there with us. I told Belle that I heard she wanted to know about a guy masterbating and then proceeded to tell her the definition. The look of horror on her face, as well as the face of her father, was pricele$$. Danielle almost choked on the food in her mouth and then we both lost it. We laughed to the point of crying. OMG, embarrasing the kids can be so much fun!!! Hey, I'd rather they hear it from me in a most uncomfortable setting so that they hear the truth as well as learn how to get thru an embarrassing moment. Yeah, that's it!!!

Cell Phone Abuse

The more I think about it, the more I believe that we really need to come up with the name of some 'syndrome' to give a namne to these people that abuse their cell phones. I think we need support groups for those that are trying so hard to give up the phones and we might need some type of shock treatment or drug therapy detox to help those afflicted the worst. We must do everything we can to keep them calm and organized so that they can feel like their lives are still worth living. I know we can do this if we all work hard.

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Okay, that is enough of that crap. I hope you weren't buying the paragraph above. We need to help them like a we need a colony of red ants and a hive full of bees at our next picnic.

What we need to do is tell them about themselves. I am always shocked to see someone driving a car with children in the back seat, no seat belts on, mom or dad is weaving in and out of traffic because they are on their cell phone and not concentrating on the tons of vehicles that surround their children. It is very shocking to really see how people value their things, like a stupid cell phone, more than their children. I know that people would argue that statement and that is okay with me. I'll debate that everytime with the same statement: If your children are the most important things in the world to you, and they should be, absolutely nothing in this world is more important than their safety. That safety includes their state of mind and fear of being hurt or worse. How is someone protecting their child when they are not actively participating in the actions that keep them safe? I am sure that we all remember somewhere back in our childhood where we were in a vehicle with someone and that persons driving scared us half to death. Didn't that make you wonder what your parents were thinking? Don't you think kids today wonder the same thing? When you are driving a vehicle with a child inside, it is your sole responsibility to make sure that child is emotionally and physically okay between point 'a' and point 'b'. The child should never have to worry if they are going to make it to point 'b'.

I really become nuts when I am at a four-way stop sign waiting for someone to go and they are all texting on their phones. Just when I give up on them going, I decide to take my chances and give it a rev only to be honked at or finger signaled by some moron that was hanging up traffic to begin with. How about the one that always ends up behind us, obviously in a hurry, with his cell phone in his hand and eating a cheeseburger with the other hand. I purposely slow down and make them a little bit later. If they insist on being on the phone while eating their dinner, I can at least slow them down a little bit. A bitch you say, no, no - - I am doing my civic duty and staying out of the jail that way, too. What I really want to do is get out of my car and snatch the annoying persons phone and smash it into itty bitty pieces.

My BSH friend has been in several accidents in the past few years and all of them were caused by people on their cell phones. She was not responsible for any of the accidents yet she lost out every time. Cars were totaled and she got blue book value from the insurance company - - much less than was still owed on one and the other car had just paid off right before the last accident. Back to a car payment so soon really hurt her financially. The funny thing is that she never once filed a personal injury suit against the drivers at fault. She just wanted to do what was right. It is always the good ones that end up with the most drama from someone elses mistakes.

Thanks for joining me today and letting me share my random thoughts with you. Coming Soon . . . . . . . . Belle and her Friends, Dumb Labeling, A day in the Life of ______________________??? Wonder whose name is going to be in the blank. hmmmmm

Tax Fraud

I was originally planning to write something funny tonight and have all of you falling off your chairs in laughter. However, I got distracted after being at my office late this afternoon. The phones kept ringing. People kept asking questions about credits and deductions involving children. It is so funny that they even call because they seem to already have all the answers (at least the ones they want to hear). What they are really doing is getting just enough info from us on how something is applied by the rules and then they take their 'story' to someone else and have them fix 'em up because now, you see, they know what to say to get that return prepared the way they wanted it - - you know, the illegal, cheating way.

I am always annoyed when I get a phone call from someone wanting to know how to best take advantage of the tax paying system. Today I dealt with several calls wherein an attorney advised his client to call one of my offices and ask who gets to claim the children of a marriage. Attorneys are notorious for doing this. They seem to think that tax law is cut and dry - - I guess they don't realize that there are filing statuses that have their own set of rules, dependents that have their own sets of rules, and tax credits and well as tax deductions that also have their own sets of rules. Usually the clients of the attorney are involved in a Bankruptcy, or will soon be, and the lawyers seem to be advising their clients to find the best way around the government capturing monies from any tax refund and paying it back to the Federal Courts which would then be sent to the creditors. This is the scenario the taxpayer would have us believe. I cannot count the number of college students that are graduating and going directly to the bankruptcy courts to file. Their debt is primarily credit card debt as federal student loans do not qualify for bankruptcy relief.

I find it so distasteful when people show no conscience or a sense of self - respect as well as personal responsibility. "Let's just let the courts pay for it - - why should we have to" - - I have heard that more than once.

I can get even more annoyed when I have to deal with some schmuck that wants to get loud when he finds out he cannot claim a deduction for paying child support. Well, duh!!! The government doesn't give me special additional deductions for raising my children in a home with their father and taking no assistance from any other sources. We have become such a large society of people that don't want to take care of themselves or any others they should be responsible for in life.

Why do we keep allowing these types of things to happen. Don't we realize that for every fraud committed, we, the average taxpayer, pay more taxes to make up the deficit. When are we going to say 'never again' and put a stop to this mess. You don't know how - - try again - - it is called being informed of former policies and future proposed policies that of those we are voting in to office. It seems as though on the local and state levels we have become so incredibly lax and that we just keep letting the same people get elected over and over and over. Just like in the Senate of the United States - - we have people that have spent decades in the House and Senate. Where are the term limits?

I have observed so many shady thngs over the past 10 years that I have been dealing with taxes. I quit working for attorneys because of the corruption in the area and thought tax law would be nice and quiet - - WRONG - - I am not saying that the paid preparers are to blame for this, I am saying the taxpayers are to blame for this. The taxpayers and politicians that have bastardized the system need to be horsewhipped!

There is so much more I want to say but under the Rules of Ethical Considerations, set in force by our government, I am not allowed to really spill the beans here. I could be fined up to $100,000 and spend 10 years in jail if I disclose certain types of information to the government, press or even and innocent bystander. And Rob wonders why I am a little grumpy during the first 15 1/2 weeks of the year!!

I will do my best to lighten the mood tomorrow with something funny - - I have been having some serious blonde, senior moments lately. My class has also been giving me alot of ammunition to use. Talk to ya'll very soon.

Stay Tuned..........

I am working on a new blog for the end of the week. Tell you friends and have them join you as a follower of the blog. I would be happy to see them here. Also, please feel free to leave comments and ideas for entries. Please, always be mindful to be respectful to others. Thanks for the time you are taking to help me achieve something I have always wanted to do! Next on the Bucket List is tornado chasing.

Mean Girls and Boys

What has happened or not happened in society today? I am so amazed that we still live in a world where a boy or girl can say one thing and completely ruin the reputation of another girl. Why has this not been stopped? Consider this: _________ had sex with Adam. ____________ is a "ho". Okay now, fill in the blank. It could be anyone's name, even yours. Please remember that if someone is gossiping about someone else to you then they are going to gossip about you too! What got me to thinking about this was that my youngest daughter came home from school one day this week and was so upset by something that she had heard about her cousin. Her cousin went to a different school last year but they are in the same school now. Let's call her cousin Lindsey. Belle was sitting at the lunch table and one of her friends was texting back and forth with someone she knows at the school Lindsey attended last year. Well, this person does not like Lindsey so he decided to tell everyone that Lindsey went to third base with him, but of course he didn't say it that nice. He decided to really put Lindsey's reputation on the line. Well, when the girls at the table heard this rumor they immediately got up and starting spreading it around the school. WHY??? Why do girls help these boys ruin another girls reputation? Why is there no Code of Honor among today's young girls and women? Have they learned nothing from their mothers, aunts, grandmothers and other women that have already lived thru this? Why do parents not realize that their daughters are so incredibly vicious? These girls can be so mean at school but if you talk to a parent they swear that their kids wear a halo. What happend to being guilty until proven innocent? I believe that girls should take a stand and say 'no more' to this kind of behavior. It is so easy for someones reputation to be destroyed and it is just as easy for this kind of behavior to be stopped. Just because a boy broke up with one girl and now likes you doesn't mean he will protect you, especially when it comes to looking 'cool'. Always remember, if a boy is going to talk about his ex-girlfriend he is going to talk about you when you break up, and you will break up. You are young and there will be many 'loves' in your life. I would hope that young girls will realize that if a boy doesn't respect other girls, then he doesn't really respect you either. I do believe that society can be changed if all girls were willing to take a stand and stop disrepecting one another. Always remember, it could be your name in the blank at any moment. Lindsey was devastated to hear that her name had been attached to a rumor so vile. She didn't want to go back to school the next day. Unfortunately, when a girl's reputation is ruined they give up on themselves and miss out on education and the social events. I just don't understand why one girl would want to undermind the self-esteem of another girl. Most rumors are not true and karma always has a way of coming back and kicking you in the butt when you least expect it. Please start respecting one another and stop the practice of the Scarlet Letter. You could be the next one to wear it!

Style of Writing

I plan to write this blog exactly the way I think and talk. I am not looking to impress anyone with proper grammer or proper english. I don't even know what proper english is these days. You will find a little bit of California girl, mixed with alot of southern girl and topped off with a little of the midwest farmers daughter. Hope you enjoy this blog - - remember, if you would like me to address a certain topic just let me know and I will let you know what I think. I promise to always be nice but please do expect sarcasm along the way. I am thinking that my first topic will be about mean, hateful teenage girls and boys. I am truly amazed at how things have become so bad with the mean girl/mean boy genre. We'll talk more about that on Sunday. See ya then...........................Dee

Let's Get it Started

Hello,

I have decided to create this blog to amuse myself. Hey, we all need something. Stay tuned and we'll see what comes next.